Stories and Reviews

focusing on strengths

The cards are based on the understanding that by strengthening our capacity to notice and name the strengths and blessings that come into our lives, we strengthen our own capacity to develop and communicate them.

Trace Balla, the illustrator of the cards, gifted one set of Angels to a close friend, who uses them regularly for personal contemplation and creative activities. Her friend ‘loves using them,’ Trace notes, and has tried several of the activities suggested in the booklet.

At the launch of her book Rivertime, Trace Balla took along Everyday Strengths as a gift to thank the members of her local choir who sang at the event. ‘I split a pack of cards and spread them all on the floor upside down. Everyone came in and picked one to take home.’ With up to thirty people to thank, it made for ‘a really beautiful experience’ and Trace was astonished by the flow of stories and conversations after people picked up their cards—‘The room was sighing with them!’

Donna McGrory, life coach and author of Life Tweaking, has used Everyday Strengths specifically for storytelling. She used them with a group of six people who were long-term unemployed to help them explore how they wanted to feel and what they wanted in life. The group had been together for three weeks and ‘were working really well together. They felt really safe,’ she recalls.

She asked the members of the group to each pick a card representing their ‘happily ever after’ and then write a story starting from ‘once upon a time…’ and finishing with that ‘perfect’ ending. The participants were allowed to tell the story as themselves or as fictitious characters. The

activity, Donna says, had an amazing impact, with some of the participants in tears of joy at the end. ‘It was so powerful. I never in my wildest dreams would’ve expected it to have such an effect. After that it was quite different … the class was a lot lighter.’

small wonders in singapore

Elizabeth Quek is a social worker in Singapore and regularly uses Innovative Resources’ materials in her work, she sent this touching account of a mother’s response to the Everyday Strengths cards.

‘Diyana’ is a young single mum who has been divorced twice. Her family has had trouble with loan sharks and Diyana’s relationships with her own mother and grandmother have been difficult. For a long time Diyana and her daughter ‘Sarimah’ were homeless. But recently, there have been positive changes in Diyana’s life.

Elizabeth has been working alongside Diyana to build her confidence and offer support. During their sessions together, Elizabeth helped Diyana reflect on unresolved distress and identify a range of factors that can keep her focused and energised. One of Elizabeth’s actions was to write a ‘letter of reference’ for Diyana with statements affirming her strengths and hopes for the future. The letter is a way of celebrating Diyana’s learning from her life experiences, and also provided Diyana with a lasting reminder of the positive qualities other people see in her: her sense of adventure and curiosity, and her ability to cherish joyful memories.

During her conversations with Elizabeth, Diyana talked about her relationship with her daughter Sarimah. Although the difficulties of Diyana’s situation have often made her feel inadequate as a mother, Sarimah’s resilience was a constant source of strength for them both. Sarimah ‘never cried or complained’. Diyana remembered that, as a six-year-old, Sarimah knew how to manage her pocket money sensibly, even telling her brother not to ask Diyana for money and offering her own savings to him instead.

When Elizabeth produced the Everyday Strengths cards, Diyana chose the ‘Wonder’ card depicting a woman walking with a small child. Diyana interpreted the card as ‘Wander’ and said it looked just like her and her daughter. She was tearful as she reflected on her daughter’s strong character and its importance for her. Even when they were constantly travelling from place to place, Sarimah was happy just to sleep in her mother’s lap.

‘We were both snivelling at the end of the session,’ Elizabeth recalls. As well as using the cards and preparing the ‘letter of reference’, Elizabeth also made up a ‘Winning in Hardship Certificate’ to honour Diyana’s progress and insights.

Diyana’s path won’t be easy—there are still tensions in her family and sadnesses to reconcile. But Diyana knows Sarimah has the strengths she needs to get through tough times. Now, with her confidence bolstered, Diyana is determined to continue her journey towards a brighter future for them both.

crisis hotline training for aware workers

Kumar is our man in Singapore! A social worker now working as a manager of government-funded social services, Kumar regularly uses Innovative Resources’ tools in his work. He’s also an enthusiastic experimenter for us, always willing to try out our latest card sets and test out their cross-cultural credentials. Here’s his run-down on a recent training event:

I wanted to let you know about a training session we ran this week. It was for a leading local women’s rights and empowerment agency in Singapore. In their twenty odd years of existence, I am their first male trainer—OK, that got me freaked out a bit!!!

Anyway, the training was part of a series of workshops organised to equip them with the theory and skills to staff their crisis hotline for women. My session was on understanding family and marital issues.

I did my stuff and as a closing exercise I used two card sets, Symbols and Everyday Strengths. First I divided the participants into two groups. The first group picked Symbols cards to represent the pain, anxieties, worries, concerns and ambivalence the women who call in may have. They then placed all these symbols in the centre the room and explained their choices. You can see the ‘inner circle’ they created.

Then the second group chose symbols that depicted how callers might feel at the end of their journey of healing or decision making. That’s the outer circle. The volunteers won’t complete the entire journey with callers, but they will be a crucial first link.

Then I lined all the Everyday Strengths cards around the two circles of Symbols cards, and asked the staff to pick a strength, skill or hope that they would like to have to help them in their work with the hotline callers.

Next, I invited them to place their card in the space between the symbols of pain circle and the journey’s end. They expressed their hopes as they placed each card on the ground.

We had good feedback from this exercise. I wanted to let you know I’m still working hard to use the cards in different ways.